Why do single women want married men? Why do married men want single women? This spiritual dilemma is deeper than what meets the eyes. When this dilemma is present, sin is always in the midst. It is not God’s will for a married man to lust after another woman who is not his wife. Even though a man has not entered into a physical relationship with another woman the Bible still calls it adultery. According to Matthew 5:27-28, it states “Ye have heard that it was said, Thou shalt not commit adultery, but I say unto you, that every one that looketh on a woman to lust after her hath committed adultery with her already in his heart. When single women show total disrespect by going after another woman’s husband she is coveting what is not lawfully hers. According to Exodus 20:17 which is the tenth commandment, God says you shall not covet anything that belongs to your neighbor.
Your neighbor is not always someone who lives near you. Your neighbor is also your fellow human being. We should show respect for others and their belongings. We should not steal what does not belong to us. When you covet what someone else has it makes you discontent with what God has given you. When you continue to covet and concentrate on what your neighbor has you begin to plot out ways you can steal it. You are not satisfied with God’s plan for your life because you want your neighbor’s life. This is sin to the highest degree. To want what God has given your neighbor instead of being thankful for what He has given you. It is so ungrateful to want to be someone else instead of who God has made you.
This can further be explained in Micah 1:1-2, “Woe to them that devise iniquity, and work evil upon their beds! when the morning is light, they practice it, because it is in the power of their hand. And they covet fields, and take them by violence; and houses, and take them away: so they oppress a man and his house, even a man and his heritage.” It is never a good thing to take someone’s heritage and blessings because you are covetous, greedy, ungrateful, violent and wicked. You would never want this done to you.
According to Biblegateway.com, Jezebel was an evil and wicked woman. Savage and relentless, this proud and strong-minded woman carried out her foul schemes. She was also a gifted woman who prostituted all her gifts for the furtherance of evil, and her misdirected talents became a curse. Persuasive, her influence was wrongly directed. More determined than other women, she used her strength of character to destroy a king and her own offspring, as well as pollute the life of a nation. Jezebel was also an ardent idolater who worshiped Baal, a dominating wife, a corrupt tree whose life was void of godly principles, a treacherous schemer, a murderer, she loved adornment to get attention and she suffered a horrible death. (1 Kings 16:31; 18:4-19; 19:1, 2; 21:5-25; 2 Kings 9) Women who practice such wicked ways are daughters of Jezebel who operate under witchcraft.
Everyone should know that marriage is honorable before God. When a man and woman gets married they enter a covenant with God and each other. Their marriage is off limits to others. Marriage should be honored by all, and the marriage bed kept pure, for God will judge the adulterer and all the sexually immoral. (Hebrews 13:4) Marriage brings many blessings and benefits to the man and woman in the covenant with God. The marriage illustrates Christ’s love for His church—His bride according to Ephesians 5:22.
If everyone knows that marriage is honorable and off limits why are so many single women and men going after someone’s spouse. Why are they so bold to break up marriages so they can have someone’s husband or wife. The blame is two fold. It goes on the spouse that engages with an outside man or woman. The blame also goes on the outside man or woman who engages with the married man or woman. Both will suffer consequences in the end.
There are some women and men who break up marriages because they want the blessings or material things of the married man and woman. They refuse to wait on God to bless them. James explains it further by saying “You crave what you do not have. You kill and covet, but are unable to obtain it. You quarrel and fight. You do not have, because you do not ask. And when you do ask, you do not receive, because you ask with wrong motives, that you may squander it on your pleasures. You adulteresses! Do you not know that friendship with the world is hostility toward God? Therefore, whoever chooses to be a friend of the world renders himself an enemy of God. (James 4:2-4)
Many have created their own way by stealing what belongs to another married man or woman. This is what happens when you are worldly and carnal. You do not walk after the spirit but after the flesh. According to Romans 8:19-25, Paul states, the acts of the flesh are obvious which are sexual immorality, impurity, and debauchery; idolatry and sorcery; hatred, discord, jealousy, and rage; rivalries, divisions, factions, and envy; drunkenness, carousing, and the like. He says “I warn you, as I did before, that those who practice such things will not inherit the kingdom of God. But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control. Against such things there is no law. Those who belong to Christ Jesus have crucified the flesh with its passions and desires. Since we live by the Spirit, let us walk in step with the Spirit. Let us not become conceited, provoking and envying one another.”
1 Kings 16:31; 18:4-19; 19:1, 2; 21:5-25; 2 Kings 9